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My once-yearly, you know I’m good for it, and I’m really sincere fundraising ask

Little known fact about me: several years ago I thought I might like to be a Victoria Hospice volunteer, and I signed up for an information session and tour to see if it might be a good fit for me to go on and take the training.

20140206-082914.jpgIf I’ve already convinced you to donate, just skip to my fundraising page: bit.ly/ToriRide and leave a donation. If not, please read on …

Turns out it wasn’t right for me at that time, but my eyes were opened to what Hospice care means for terminally ill people and their families. I saw first hand the importance of hospice facilities and care, the unique requirements involved, the dedication of the staff and volunteers. After experiencing the loss of family members myself, I am astonished (in a good way) at the strength, caring, and courage of people who work to make someone’s last days and hours more comfortable.

Those who know me, know I’m not one to throw a bucket of ice on my head and post the video on YouTube (more power to those who do!), but I do like to help my preferred charities in other ways.

This year, I’m riding my bike for 60 kilometres to raise money for Victoria Hospice on September 7. My team (Team Blood, Sweat, and Gears) has set ourselves a modest goal of raising $250. It won’t take much to meet that goal, and that’s why I’m asking for a little bit of help from my friends.

It goes all the way up to 11

It goes all the way up to 11

You know I only go to the well (my friends and family) at most once per year. You know I only raise funds for organizations I’m personally involved with in some way, doing good work in the community. I believe wholeheartedly in the work of the Victoria Hospice. Won’t you help me reach my team fundraising goal today? I won’t ask you again. Not even at Christmastime!

Just a $10 donation will help. Twenty or more would be better, but $10 is all I ask. It only takes a minute: bit.ly/ToriRide. And you have my gratitude. If you donate $50 though, you have my gratitude and an invitation to our next dinner party. 🙂

I’m only asking once, so please head over to bit.ly/ToriRide and get out your credit card.




How to survive abuse and live a joyful life, and support those who are trying to do just that

Tori on bike stage of Beginner Tri May 5 2013Short version of this post:

  • I’m doing the Tri of Compassion June 30
  • to raise money for the Victoria Women’s Sexual Assault Centre
  • because as a survivor of sexualized violence, this issue is very close to me.
  • So please go to my fundraising page and donate. I only do one fundraising push a year and this is it.

The full version:

You can live a joyful life after surviving sexual assault…and I’m living proof.

I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and date rape. Many of my friends these days find that hard to believe, because I’m “normal” and I don’t talk about it much any more. I’m happy, healthy and successful. I’m not driven by fear (much) or paralyzed by nasty memories (much) and I’m pretty darn well adjusted (hey – all of us have some crazy, I just kept the good crazy bits!)

There are two reasons I was able to stop being a victim, move past being a survivor and start living the life I was meant to live:

1) support from a sexual assault centre like the VWSAC and;

2) taking up exercise, specifically endurance sports.

HENCE, this happy concurrence of an endurance sports event specifically for raising money for a sexual assault centre.

This triathlon is my way of paying it forward. Years and years ago (when I lived in Saskatchewan), I made appointment after appointment with the women’s centre counselor – and kept breaking them – until I was ready to face my demons. Eventually I was able to go to the police and my abuser was arrested, tried, convicted and sent to prison.

The counselor was there when I needed her, thanks to the generous support of the community. Now that I live in British Columbia, I realize that public funding for mental health services is even worse than in Saskatchewan. We need to support centres like this.

I have a big fundraising goal this year. I can’t do this without you. Help me reach my goals and pay it forward!

There are still too many women, men, lesbians, gays, bisexual and transgendered people who will experience sexualized violence in their lifetime. I am swimming, biking, and running because I believe that:

1. Every survivor deserves supportive services (to see all that the Victoria Women’s Sexual Assault Centre provides to those whose lives have been impacted by sexualized violence visit: www.vwsac.com).

2. It’s time to break the silence and shame that surround sexualized violence and events like the Triathlon of Compassion do just that.

Postscript: In closing, I have a definitive piece of advice for – well, you know who you are – about how to treat a drunk woman in your home.



A request and a Happy Thanksgiving

I’m awfully lucky, in the hustle of getting ready to move to Vancouver and the bustle of getting ready to run a half marathon and eat a delicious dinner this weekend, that I am healthy, happy and surrounded by people who care about me. I have a lot to be thankful for.

I want to wish you a happy thanksgiving, and I also have a request. Admit it, I don’t do this very often, and I promise I won’t do it again for at least another year 🙂

I also can’t help but think of the bigger picture during holidays like this. Where are we going to go if or when we can’t run anymore? Or cook for ourselves, or dress ourselves, or go for a walk in the park?

Someplace like Mount St Mary’s hospital perhaps.

Maybe you and I will be felled by old age, a terrible accident or disease like cancer. Chances are it will be a process, not an event. Many of us will need long term care at some point.

That care does not come cheap. There are people at Mount St Mary’s now who need some extra help. The Cancer Society needs funds to search for a cure.

This year I vowed running was not going to be all about me. Now here it is, two days away from my next race – the Victoria Marathon (I’m running the half – 21.1 km) and I need to put my mouth where the money is. On this Thanksgiving weekend, please think about giving back to the community, and supporting my efforts to make my running about giving back and paying it forward.Giving Hands

My goals are modest:

Raise $200 for Mount St Mary’s hospital in Victoria. Make your donation online here.

Sell some YYJRuns 2012 calendars (in which I appear, running with wild abandon along a trail at the Royal Roads University grounds) to raise funds for cancer research. You can pre-order yours here.

Please visit one or both of those links today and give what you can. A $15 donation to Mount St Mary’s, and a $15 calendar. I’d be thrilled, but more importantly so many others will be able to live a better life. And for that, we can all be grateful.

Happy Thanksgiving, and much love to you and yours.